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In earthly marriages there is a place of intimacy that two committed lovers enter into where deep exchanges of love take place in a private, hidden manner. The song, Behind Closed Doors (Dolly Parton), speaks of this place where it says, “no one knows what goes on behind closed doors.”

     There is a beautiful truth hidden behind closed doors. Besides the physical expressions of love and tenderness that are a part of an earthly marriage, there is something more. There is something deeper. There is a kind of language, a kind of relating to one another personally and intimately, reserved for one’s lover. It transcends the physical and reaches into the spiritual. It is a depth of relationship that goes deeper than any other.

     A marital love makes demands on its partner--strong demands. A marital love requires our all. A marital love cuts deep, it can hurt, it is not for the weak and the cowardly but for the strong.

                     Love hurts, Love scars, Love wounds and mars
                    Any heart not tough or strong enough
                    To take a lot of pain, take a lot of pain
                    Love is like a cloud, it holds a lot of rain
                    Love hurts, Ooo-oo Love hurts


      When a marital relationship gets through the tough times and matures into its full expression--words are not enough. The lovers enter into their own private little world of communication. They gaze deep into one another’s eyes, saying nothing, but in a sense saying everything.

     There is also an intimacy reserved for each one of us with Christ alone--individually. A hidden intimacy, that is shared with no one else. Jesus speaks of this relationship, where He says, “He who has an ear, let him hear what the Spirit says to the churches. To him who overcomes, to him I will give some of the hidden manna, and I will give him a white stone, and a new name written on the stone which no one knows but he who receives it” (Revelation 2:17).

     The Bible talks about this intimacy where it describes how God speaks to us through His Spirit; for the Spirit searches all things, even the depths of God

(I Corinthians 2:10). And God’s Spirit intercedes for us, (or communicates to us and for us), with groanings too deep for words (Romans 8:26). And the Bible says, Deep calls to deep (Psalm 42:7).

     Through nature, God’s invisible attributes, His eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly seen, being understood through what has been made (Romans 1:20).

     What do we see in our natural relationships here on earth, that point to a spiritual relationship with God in Heaven? Remember the Bible teaches the church is the bride of Christ and that there will be a wedding of some kind between Christ and His bride.  

     If there is a natural body, there is also a spiritual body (I Corinthians 15:44). It can also be said, “If there is a natural bridal relationship, there is also a spiritual bridal relationship.”

     What does a spiritual bridal relationship consist of? What does it look like?

     We know there are certain characteristics that are unique to an earthly bridal relationship. Most preeminent is the physical joining of a man and a woman. This takes place in a private place, a secret place, a bridal chamber. It is not something that is shared in public. In fact there is a shame connected with any sort of public display with what is designed by God to be private and holy. It is designed to be private. It is designed to be holy. It is designed by God, not by man. 

     Living in a culture so inundated by sexual excess, it is difficult to see what God is saying about a heavenly bridal relationship through an earthly one. But try to imagine how it used to be in our society. It was very common that when a man and a woman walked up to the altar on their wedding day, they were both virgins. In many instances the two may have refrained from any kind of sexual affection to the opposite sex before marriage out of respect for their future spouse. So when they finally found the one they wanted to marry all their love was waiting for just that person. In such a society the wedding night holds much greater wonder, intrigue, and mystery to a couple preparing to wed.

     Now take this one step further. The wedding of Christ and His bride happens only once--just as an earthly wedding happens only once. In an earthly marriage (especially if we look back at Adam and Eve, before they knew each other) entering into a bridal relationship is entering into the unknown. There is something waiting for the two lovers in the bridal chamber that is designed for only them to indulge in and no one else. It is a place of vulnerability and full discloser. It is a place of full union and the height of pleasure and enjoyment. It is a place of beauty, holiness, and awe. It is a place neither one has been before. This is true in an earthly marriage and it is also true for the marriage of Christ and His church. Remember, Jesus manifests that part of God (the Son of Man) that interacts with us in our present context of time. 

     The marriage of Christ and His bride is also a one time event. And like an earthly marriage, it is also a place of full union and full disclosure. It is where the height of pleasure and enjoyment takes place. And it is also a place of holiness and awe. Just as we the church have not been this way before, Jesus has not been this way before. We will be entering into this bridal relationship, into God’s bridal chamber, into the unknown, together, for the first time!

     What does God have waiting for us in a bridal relationship with Him? What has He prepared for our wedding night? What’s He got hidden up His sleeve? 

     Earthly relationships have earthly characteristics. An earthly marriage is sown in weakness . . . sown in dishonor and is perishable. However, a bridal relationship with the living God is not. It has heavenly characteristics. It is of honor, it is raised in glory . . . it is raised in power, and it is imperishable (I Corinthians 15:42, 43).

     Whatever this bridal relationship with God is, it is pointed to by a marriage relationship of a man and a woman on earth. It is a relationship that involves things that are hidden, intimate heart felt groanings expressed with secret languages. And it includes being given a new name from Jesus--a name known only to Him and to the one who receives it.

     And they shall see His face (Revelation 22:4). Imagine looking into the face, into the eyes of Jesus, and into His soul. Imagine diving into the depths of His heart, into the place of bridal intimacy with God Himself. Imagine entering into a relationship that is so intimate, so personal that it can only be expressed privately, alone with Jesus, behind closed doors.


Taken from Falling in Love with the Prince of Life

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