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Boomer Speaks to Today's Teenagers
Probably the most powerful force mankind has harnessed is nuclear
energy. It can be used for both good and bad purposes. Nuclear
energy is used to generate electricity for cities or for powering
submarines or space ships. It is also used as a weapon to destroy.
It sustains life and it destroys life.
is like nuclear power. It can be used for both good and bad
purposes. It can produce life and it can destroy life. There’s a lot
of power in how our sexual relationships impact us. But just
like nuclear power, if you use it wrongly or carelessly, it can
destroy you. It can destroy you physically, emotionally, and
spiritually. It can ruin your life. Such power must be given great
respect and used very carefully.
There’s a lot of voices in the world saying all kinds of things
about sexual morality. But you alone control this aspect of your
life. You alone will reap the consequences. No matter what people
say, this is not fun and games. This is life and death.
Think about what you are doing when you engage in sexual relations
with another human being. Think about what you are exposing your
body to when engaging in certain sexual practices and behavior. If
you listen to some voices out there, you would think you could do
anything without having to worry about any consequences. All that
has to be done is to use a condom and you’ll be safe. And if there
is a “problem”, like an unwanted pregnancy, just get an abortion and
everything will be OK.
is this the truth? Is it safe? Is it smart to do whatever you want?
Some of you might be thinking, “Mike, don’t be such a prude! What’s
wrong with having a little fun? A little fun never hurt anybody.”
Think about this. Is it smart to have a little “fun” with a nuclear
you had access to a nuclear weapon, would you set it off, just for
kicks? If you’re smart you’d stay clear. You’d at least learn to use
such things wisely and for what they are designed.
what about sex? There’s nothing wrong with having a little fun!
your heads! Playing with sex is like playing with a bomb. You can
The Nelsons and the Hefners
When my generation (the baby boomers) was growing up there were only
two—only two sexually transmitted diseases you could contract by
“not being careful.” Now there is over two dozen. Two dozen! Some of
which are life threatening.
present society is giving you the shaft. We baby boomers were not
raised like you are being raised. We were raised with restrictions
on our sexual behavior. Restrictions that promoted safety and life,
not sickness and death. The WW II generation regarded sexual
activity as something very important. Something reserved for a
husband and a wife. Sex was designed to be a part of the foundation
of the family. It was not designed to be a recreational activity
practiced outside the family.
Consequently we were raised on the social standards which were
reflected by the TV shows of the 50’s and 60’s: Ozzie and
Harriet, Leave it to Beaver, I Love Lucy, Father Knows Best.
These television shows reflect the moral standards of that time. The
moral standards of the Bible, of Jesus Christ, of Moses. These
standards are sometimes called Judeo-Christian. We were raised on
these standards, that’s what our culture taught us back then. We
were taught how to keep sex in its place. How to use it wisely. What
to do and what not to do. How to keep from destroying ourselves.
Just like those who work with nuclear power, they have to be careful
so they don’t blow themselves up.
When our generation came into our own in the 1960’s we had a choice
to make. Would we continue with what we were taught by those who
loved us or would we go for something else?
the book of Proverbs King Solomon describes the two moral options
everyone has when they are first on their own. The first moral
option is wisdom. The second moral option is folly. They both call
out to the naďve in the streets and beckon them to come in and sit
at their tables and eat. At the table of wisdom is goodness and
life. At the table of folly is stolen food and adulterous
relationships. The young and naďve don’t know—to sit at the table of
folly is to sit at the table of death.
When we baby boomers “came of age” we decided to eat at the table of
folly, not the table of wisdom. We didn’t want to practice the
restrictions on sex our parents raised us up on. We didn’t want to
wait. We had Hugh Hefner and the pornographers telling us that we
didn’t have to be married to have sex. That there was nothing wrong
with looking at women, fantasizing about them, and having casual
sexual relationships without a commitment.
“Have your fun!” They told us. “Why listen to all the fuddy duddys
of the world? Why let them control your life?”
That was all new back then. Up until then pornography was hidden
away in sleazy back alleys and in the filthiest parts of big cities.
Hugh Hefner brought to America (and eventually to the world), a
pornography that was more acceptable, that was dressed up, wrapped
in a flashy looking upscale magazine. At first it was dismissed as
harmless. But to us Boomers it was our license to throw away the
restrictions of the Bible, the Judeo-Christian morality. Here was a
new philosophy, the Playboy Philosophy, that if it felt good, do it.
If the girl next door was willing and able, then, go for it.
Nothing’s wrong if you have two consenting adults.
generation chose to turn away from the way we were raised and as a
society chose to embrace the pornographers as our new moral guides.
At the time we didn’t understand the value of the morality we were
raised in. We didn’t realize what it was it was protecting us from.
And in so doing we took away from ourselves, and from you who would
follow after us a safe, moral society. A society that would teach
its children to be sexually responsible and how to keep from
The Life you Live Today Determines your Future
baby boomers have given to you a pornographic society. You are being
told that if you want to be sexually active and use sex
recreationally, “Go for it! We’ll supply you with condoms and
abortions so you can have your fun and you don’t have to worry about
what you are not being told, is that condoms aren’t 100 %
effective. An abortion is not the cure-all to a “problem” pregnancy.
A sexually promiscuous lifestyle breeds physical, relational, and
emotional disaster and lays the foundation for an unhealthy and
health dangers that go with a sexually promiscuous lifestyle
continue to grow. Besides the smorgasbord of sexually transmitted
disease that is rampant today there is the HIV virus which leads to
Aids which kills.
There is another death that comes with a life style of using sex in
recreational manner—the death of your soul.
yourself these questions:
your family experience wasn’t it nice to have both your mom and dad
there for you while you were being raised as a child? Or if you
didn’t have them there
were growing up, wouldn’t it have been nice if they were? To have
them both there for you in a loving manner, to go to, when you
way you handle your sexual relationship(s) makes up one of the most
important foundations upon which your life is built. The decisions
you are making today about sex will directly impact you for the rest
of your life.
decisions you’re making today, will determine whether or not you
will have someone to share your life with. Whether or not you will
have someone to love.
decisions you’re making today, will determine whether or not you
will have a family. Whether or not you will have children.
decisions you’re making today, about sex, will determine that if you
do have children, how they will be raised.
Will your children have a loving father and a loving mother there
for them while they are growing up?
Will they be brought up by a single mom or a single dad?
Will they grow up at all?
Will your children ever see the light of day?
Will they be aborted?
When you get to that point in life where you want to find someone to
spend your life with—what will you be bringing to such a
stable will you be?
What our present society is not telling you, is that sex is
one of the main
foundations that any relationship is built on
any family is built on
that any life is built on.
When you find someone you really care for and want to spend your
life with, what will you offer that person? What will you bring to
you have a history of using sex in a recreational manner, you make
an unlikely candidate for being a faithful partner. That person you
want to be with probably will not want to be with you.
are designed to live with each other, to love each other. Not to go
to person for our next sexual fix. Spouses and especially
children should not
fear that their wife or husband or mommy or daddy will up and leave
them at any given time. But if you’re using sex in a recreational
manner, you will not be
switch gears when the time comes. You will not be able to focus all
your love and attention on the one you care for. You will not be
able to be there for your spouse or your children. You will not be
able to “settle down”. You will be too busy
for your next sexual conquest, your next sexual high.
When you use sex recreationally and ignore the lasting impact sexual
relationships have on your life, you’re setting yourself up for
disaster. You’re setting yourself up for a relational nightmare, a
nuclear explosion. Every sexual relationship you have goes with you.
The impact stays with you. Whether it’s good or bad, it goes with
you. And if you’re developing a habit of being sexually promiscuous,
it becomes harder and harder to commit yourself to being there for
the one you love.
There will come a time in your life when you will want more than
to share your life with
to come home to
to be there for you
to love and to love you back, not just for sexual recreation, but
for who you are.
if you’re following Hugh Hefner. If you’re following the
pornographic society we live in and you’re using sex in a
recreational manner, it’s not going to happen.
odds that you will find a person who will love you or that you will
be capable of loving decreases each time you use sex in a
recreational manner. Sure, you’ll always be able to find someone
that will want you for a one night stand. There will always be
someone who will want you sexually—for a time—then want to move on
to their next future ex-lover. But imagine how lonely and how dark
such a life becomes. There’s never really anyone there for you,
someone who wants to be there just for you. Because the same
is true for you. If you are living such a lifestyle you are
incapable of really being there for someone else. You won’t be there
for them when they need you because you will be getting ready to
move on. This is a lonely and desperate lifestyle which ends up in
self destruction. It’s no different than setting off a nuclear bomb
in the middle of your life.
those of you who aren’t buying this. You feel like I’m off my rocker
and don’t know anything about anything. You’re going to have your
fun. You’re not going to give it up.
This is for you:
Mark my words, just as sure as you’re reading this, there will come
a time when you will wake up in the middle of the night. You won’t
be able to sleep. You’ll be
at the ceiling and wondering, where is everybody? All your friends
are Gone—you’re alone—and you’re dying on the inside. And
believe me if this hasn’t already happened to you—that day is
coming! You’ll be crying from deep within your heart for someone to
love and to love you back, but there will be no one.
lyrics of this song describe this quite well:
All By Myself
When I was young, I never needed
And making love was just for fun
Those days are gone
Living alone, I think of all the
friends I've known
But when I dial the telephone
All by myself, I don't want to be
All by myself...anymore
If you’re using sex in a recreational way, because it’s fun,
you like it, it makes you feel good. It makes you feel like you are
somebody, somebody important, somebody cool. You feel right about it
because “everybody” is doing it—you’re playing with a nuclear
bomb and it’s going to go off.
might be saying at this point, “That’s me. You’re describing me.
I’ve already screwed up. I’m into these things. I live a life of
folly and death, not wisdom and life. What can I do? Is there a way
out of this? Is there anyone who can help?
word of God gives us this promise:
Call upon Me in the day of trouble, I will
and you shall glorify Me
Jesus will be there for you! And you’re not the only one who’s
screwed up—join the club! Everyone of us who believe in Jesus have
come from the same place. We realized we needed Christ. We realized
we’ve messed up, that in and of ourselves—we’re alone—we’re lost. We
all started our lives down the road to destruction. Nobody can say
they’ve had it all together. We are descendents of Adam and Eve who
messed up from the beginning and we are their offspring. Jesus came
to give everyone of us the power to climb up out of the mess we’ve
made and to make something of ourselves. He came to give us a
future. But the kicker is, we have to do it His way, not
ours. But His way is the only way.
Jesus wants what’s good for us and He came to make it happen. He is
the way to this life that we all so desperately need and want.
Using sex, using people, using relationships recreationally will not
get it. It is a lie to believe that there are no consequences to
such behavior. These lies are being perpetuated by those who benefit
richly from businesses catering to such lifestyles.
are Created in the Image of God!
reason why it’s important to respect one another sexually is not
only to foster healthy family relationships. But our earthly
relationships, especially our marriage relationships, prepare us for
a far more important heavenly relationship with God.
Jesus didn’t come just to die for our sins and straighten us out. He
also came to enter into a relationship with us. A friendship. A
friendship that begins here and lasts forever.
what does this mean that God wants to be our friend?
believe it has to do with the fact that we are created in God’s
image and likeness. We have the potential, no, it’s more than just
potential, we are designed, we are meant to grow fully
into the image of God. It’s the most natural thing for us to enter
into. It’s what God made us for!
Think about it. Look at nature. There are all kinds of living beings
living in their own social circles, with those of their own kind.
All getting meaning and purpose out of living their lives with one
another. Birds sing together. Dogs chase each other. Dolphins jump
out of the water together. Horses run. Cows graze. Bees swarm. All
drawn together, living together, experiencing the joys of life with
each other of their own kind.
What about God? Who does God want to be with? Who does God want to
spend eternity with? Does He want to be with birds? Does He want to
be with dogs? Does He want to be with cats? Does He want to be with
pigs or goats? Of course not. He
be with you! He wants to be with me! He wants to be with us! We’re
created in His image!
doesn’t want to spend eternity with dogs or cats. He wants to spend
eternity with you! He’s prepared Heaven for you! That’s why He made
you. He loves you. He wants to be with you!
Bible says that you, you, are created in God’s image and
likeness, you. Not dogs, not cats, not monkeys or fish,
are all His sons and His daughters.
Look around. Every person you see, no matter how plain, how shy, or
unimpressive looking, is created in the image of God! We all have
the potential to become fully molded and fashioned into God’s image
and likeness—to take on His nature, to become like Him. That’s why
He sent His Son to die for us, to prepare the way for us. He created
this universe for us so that He could share it with
Think of all the time and effort it took God to create you! Think of
all the talent and creative power God put to bear to bring you into
to think we’re being told by our “wonderful” scientific community
and today’s “politically correct” crowd that we are just accidents
of nature. That somehow we originated in an explosion, a Big Bang.
Does anybody know of an explosion set off in a deserted area that
leaves behind an organized anything? Will such an explosion leave
behind a Buick? Will it leave behind a golf course? Will it leave
behind a library or a frying pan? Of course not. Explosions
destroy—they don’t create. And not only are we being told that this
Big Bang, this Big Explosion, brought forth organization, we are
being told it brought forth life. It brought forth you and me. That
after the Big Bang we came out of the primordial soup as fish and
for no good reason crawled out of the water onto dry land. Then we
just happened to evolve into apes and then into human beings. We are
supposed to believe we are byproducts of billions of years of
evolutionary mutation and retardation first put into motion by an
explosion. That there is no purpose or meaning behind our
existence—we are just byproducts of chance. We just happened!
that isn’t pure insanity I don’t know what is. Don’t listen to that
garbage! You take all the scientists on our planet and all their
technology and they can’t even create a seed to plant in the ground
to spring up as a plant. Let alone create a human being with all the
thoughts, emotions and intricacies we have. We’re not products of
created you. God designed you. He’s your heavenly
Father. You’re His son.
His daughter. The word of God says you are fearfully and
wonderfully made! Each one of you is designed to fulfill a specific
purpose that only you can fill. No one else can do this. Only
you. We need you to find out what it is that God has
in your heart for us. If you don’t enter into it and fulfill
it, it will never happen. We will never experience what it is that
God has given to you, to give to us. But, it’s up to you. You
you want to do your own thing and blindly follow the Hugh Hefners
and the pornographers of the world? Do you want to end up alone,
full of disappointment, heartache, and emptiness? Or do you want to
use your head and be wise. Let God guide you into becoming His son,
or His daughter! Then you will have someone to share your life with,
someone to care for, forever! It’s the greatest thing there is.
Nothing’s better. The choice is yours.
Right now, Jesus is waiting for you with arms wide open to give you
all His love and all you have to do is say, “Yes.” He will come into
your heart and be with you forever. You don’t need to come to an
altar or raise your hand in a church revival. All you have to do is
say yes to Him quietly in your heart and He will hear you. It’s
between you and Him. Don’t worry about what anybody else thinks.
It’s your decision. You get to choose if you want Him or not. You
decide. Life or death. You choose.
is saying the words of this song—just to you:
If you need me, call me.
No matter where you are, no matter how far.
Just call my name. I’ll be there in a hurry.
On that you can depend and never worry.
No wind, no rain,
Nor winter’s cold
Can stop me,
If you’re my goal.
I know you must follow the sun.
Wherever it leads.
But remember if you should fall short of your
desires, remember life holds for you one
You’ll always have me.
And if you should miss my love
one of these old days.
Just remember what I told you
the day I set you free.
Ain’t no mountain high enough
Ain’t no valley low enough
Ain’t no river wild enough
To keep me from you.
Nothing can keep me
To keep me from you
No Mountain High Enough by Nickolas Ashford/Valerie Simpson)
Jesus will always be there for you—all you have to do is call.
©copyright 2007 Michael J. Silberg